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Tuesday, April 24, 2007

DIVORCE - The Easy Way Out?

I havent always had a strong opinion about divorce..as in i never used to be against it. In fact, when i was younger i remember telling friends, "Married life is simple, if i hate the guy i just get a divorce and that's it."

But it's interesting how now i think very differently about things. I feel marriage is the most sacred man-made bond that can be created. And once u decide to spend the rest of your life with someone, things ultimately change. You would have to change to adapt. Some people dont and take the easy way out by getting a divorce. A piece of paper is supposed to compensate u in some manner for the so called 'mistake' u made marrying someone.

It doesnt turn back time nor does it guarantee u a future of happiness, it just gives u the legal right to split assets right down to children.But wasnt the marriage vow 'till death do us part 'and not 'till divorce or a piece of paper do us part'? How can u so easily denounce a relationship that defines your life?

Why then cant we have divorces for other relationship? Can u ever say that's your ex-dad? Or ex-mum? Some of us do get driven up the wall by our parents and i have seen some even enduring so much of the 'torture' their parents inflict upon them. But they dont drag their parents to court to say they dont want these parents anymore.

It may be different but all i am saying is...we tend to find the easiest way out sometimes. Especially so when we are provided a convenient avenue to do so ..like divorce...makes it easy to cut off ties with a spouse...but in cases where there arent any simple solutions, we learn to manage... and swallow the bitter pill.

I hope that i will never see the day i need to go thru such a thing IF i ever do get married...which is a very big IF..

Labels: divorce, relationship