Saturday, August 22, 2009

Some people are born with pain. Half a heart, blood disorders, brain abnormalities and many more. They learn to accept life as fate and live their days coping with the short change. Not sure if it's the right word to use but well..god has his reasons..and for those who dont believe in god..it's just another good reason to justify that god isnt all that prefect cause he makes mistakes..and question if he even exist.. Whatever the reason is..such pain is inevitable...what inspires is how much these people fight on to live their lives or what little borrowed time they have. How parents go through all odds and at all lengths to make sure the child gets the 'best' treatment and all that life can offer.

There's another kind of pain and I saw that today in the eyes of an Uncle. My Dad's close friend. It created a lump in my throat this afternoon when I saw him at home. He had visited probably cause he was feeling very lonely. He had just lost his wife 2 months ago. I never realised he was old till today and I had mentioned it to my mum that he looked old. She was like..well..he is already 70. My point is he never looked that old till now. He was always smiling. He has the most beautiful heartwarming smile. I have always remembered him smiling and joking and really nothing like what i saw today. It pained me so much to see how much hurt he had in him.

Through our conversation, he often referred to things that his wife used to say and the times they had together. He has a son in his 40s who isnt giving him a simple time now. I guess the pain i see in his eyes is a reflection of the lost of a life partner he has had for close to 50 years and the hurt inflicted by his only living son (he had lost his younger son many years earlier to cancer). I guess money does mean everything sometimes. But it does make me wonder how children can take money away from their parents and how they can make their parents feel so helpless.
I used to question the need for laws to help pay for parents maintenance. But what we really need are laws to help protect old parents from abuse-from them being swindled by their own blood and from them being physically abused. What's the use of setting up laws for children to make sure they give their parents money every month, when they have robbed them of their entire life's savings? And hold them ransom in their own homes? Living in fear that they might be thrown out anytime or hit? We should have laws to protect parents from physical abuse and such 'robberies' too.

I used to think the Parents Maintenance law was a bit off...but looking at it now..maybe it does serve it's purpose to some ungrateful brats. But i seriously think there should be more laws to protect parents from physical abuse and having their life savings slip through their fingers.
I hope my Uncle can get through this painful period in his life...some people might just give up...esp when the only one person you had to talk to is now gone...losing your pillar in life is the most painful thing which i am sure everyone fears. Maybe that's why i hesitate to have that pillar..

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Shari, The Beauty With Brains

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